Mental Health: The Light at the End of The Tunnel

This post was inspired early this morning by an article I read about a woman who is certain that Cognitive Behavioral Therapy saved her life. It’s an amazing post and I highly recommend that everyone read it HERE. I know that it has encouraged me to look into CBT in my own town and hope that maybe sometime in the future I can also use the therapy to elevate my method of thinking.

The problem with the way that mental health is being treated nowadays is that it is often stigmatized, swept under a rug and often forgotten. Because of this, people are told that there is something ‘wrong’ with them and that they are flawed human beings. That a pill of Wellbutrin, Zoloft or Paxil will ease them into normalcy.

They are dead wrong.

Having mental health issues is a normal reaction to the way modern society treats its citizens: Buy a car. Buy a house. Work all day. Pay the bills. Lose your job. Scrape on by. Lose everything.

That’s just one very small example of a common problem.

What pills don’t do is teach you how to cope with the debilitating effects of an abusive childhood. Pills don’t take the pain away from abandonment or ridicule. Pills don’t teach you how to change your attitude from negative to positive and they don’t resolve feelings of guilt or mourning.

What pills DO have is a ridiculous amount of lobbyists and dangerous side effects. Pills DO net pharmaceutical companies over $115 BILLION dollars a year.

This post is about my own opinion on treating mental health issues. I believe that inherent in every human being is the ability to overcome any and all psychological walls. I strongly advocate the use of natural methods such as meditation and energy work to help realize what it is that each person needs help with. In addition, I believe that talking about your issues to a licensed professional without the use of psychotropic medication can be ideal.

A professional therapist can help you isolate the root of your problem and provide you with tools to help you help yourself. We have been raised in this culture to believe that we lack personal power and that we lack the mentality and willpower to heal ourselves. I strongly oppose that notion and I know that every human being is capable of amazing things and that the mind has nearly limitless potential.

It is my own personal belief that the term ‘chemical imbalance’ is something used by medical professionals to make a patient feel as is something is wrong with them that needs to be fixed with more chemicals. What every person fails to remember is that we are all chemically different from each other…and I am sure that if every person on Earth were tested for ‘chemical imbalances’ we would all be on some sort of medication.

** IMPORTANT TO NOTE** There is a difference in mood disorders (of which is the focus in this post) and brain diseases such as Schizophrenia, Dementia and Alzheimers which should definitely be treated medically.

If you’re suffering from a bout of sadness, loneliness or strife, I hope that this post has inspired you to realize you carry within yourself the tools to a better life and that talking to a licensed professional can help you gain some fresh perspective.

October Doodle [Part Deux]: Sapience

As soon as I was done with this piece, I posted it to social networks and now I get to explain the process.

I found an old three legged table just thrown out and in sorry shape. For some reason I took a liking to the table and decided to take it home with me. This was months ago. Now, due to my recent unemployment I have been working on art and writing projects nearly on an exclusive basis and had the time to create something with the forgotten table.

I wasn’t sure exactly what to put on the top…I knew I wanted something that resonated from deep within me…maybe something symbolic. I kept brainstorming and had a couple of choices. I could do something relating to the Goetia with a piece of graffiti in the foreground…I could paint an astrological chart

None of that happened. Instead, I sat down with the tabletop on my lap and just let the paintbrush do it’s thing. I painted the bust of a bald woman, set in a background of silver filigree. Inside her mind are gear cogs. When I was done with the painting, I signed it and called it ‘Sapience‘.

What is Sapience?

Sapience is often defined as wisdom, or the ability of an organism or entity to act with appropriate judgment, a mental faculty which is a component of intelligence or alternatively may be considered an additional faculty, apart from intelligence, with its own properties….In fantasy fiction and science fiction, sapience describes an essential human property that bestows “personhood” onto a non-human.

‘Sapience’ is acrylic on an MDF and wood 3 legged table. It took 4 days to complete and is glazed in Liquitex. Here are some photos of the work in progress:

What Do Women Want?

Quite honestly, I don’t think that even we understand what we want sometimes.

Since women sprang forth from the ether, from the mud, from Adam‘s forsaken rib or what have you, women have been ridiculed and misunderstood. No other country knows this better than the grand ol’ U. S. of A.; yes, the Land of the Free, the Land of Opportunity and Land of the Brave.

What they should have dubbed it is ‘Land of Misogyny‘ or ‘Land of Classism‘ or even ‘Land of Conflicting Attitudes Toward Gender’, but of course that wouldn’t really fit, now, would it?

For as long as I have been alive -which hasn’t been very long- the attitudes that our culture has had towards women has teeter-tottered between different poles of beliefs.

Women belong in the kitchen.
Women deserve to have their voice heard.
Women are too emotional to hold a position of power.
Women are Goddesses of love and passion, worthy of our adoration.
Women are heartless sluts.

Women have experienced more cultural schizophrenia than any other racial background, monetary class or even animal classification for that matter. Yet we resolve to move forward, while looking fabulous and keeping the house spotless and patiently wait for the next wave of cultural bipolarism.

Now having said that, it’s no surprise that Men in general have not stopped to smell the flowers and actually have gotten to know their fellow bed-mate. Shit, for as long as science has been around, Man has been desperately trying to unlock the secrets of that sweet little button below the navel that somehow seems to get us off.

Some women have conceded to defeat, faking their expertly acted orgasms and given up the hope that any man will ever truly understand what we want. This isn’t only in reference to sex either. I also mean around the house, in the workplace, on our media and governing the country, too.

Others, like myself have hope in Man. That Man will someday find that sweet spot: that happy medium that’s not too rough and not too soft. That Man may someday see us Women as an equal, a partner and an ally. Will Men ever accept us as that?

It’s ironic then that Women have been jumping through hoops for generations, trying to get ahead in this World and trying to fit the status quo. It’s no wonder that we often find ourselves confused about what we Need versus what we Want.

Needless to say, the following Universal Truth’s can be said about Women and What We Want:

  1. In relationships, we want a man who can be our equal and understand that our actions and opinions are just as valid and just as profound as theirs may be.
  2. In life, we want to be seen as perfectly capable individuals. That we can be just as smart, just as cunning and just as pioneering in every aspect of life that there is.
  3. In culture, we want to be recognized and utilized for our ability to over analyze things. We are often called nit picky and overly fussy, but our natural character to read between the lines and pay attention to every micro detail is useful for many political applications.
  4. Women love confident men. Confident men are not cocky, boastful or arrogant. They are all about attitude and what they know they can offer. They’d rather show you what they can do than tell you about it.
  5. Sexually, all humans desire praise. Women are no exception. Sure, a nod to perfecting the perfect technique is appreciated, but what Women love is to be praised for their body. We are all built differently but to know that our bodies are your song, your joy and your pleasure is well worth a few words at least.
  6. Emotions seem to be the harbinger of death for Men sometimes. If only Men were in touch with their Yin a little more than their Yang, the world would be a lot more peaceful place and so would relationships.

That’s all for my little random social commentary. I hope to live to see the day that a Woman becomes President or to see the day that a Woman can be as equally respected as a Man without question or doubt.

Here’s to you, ladies. Cheers.